Tiger Woods is quoted as saying (just before a tournament):
“The day I’m not nervous is the day I quit!”
This seemingly innocent remark spotlights one of the most important secrets to managing stressful situations and sharpening focus and performance.
A secret we can trace all the way back to some of the earliest Greek philosophers.
Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck, the co-founders of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) talk openly about how the “Socratic method” and tenets from Stoic philosophy form the core of the CBT concept.
Socrates highlighted the connection between how you interpret the world, the beliefs you…
So — is boredom good or bad?
On the one hand, there is the “in-the-moment” boredom described by Manoush Zomorodi in her recent book “Bored and Brilliant”, in which our mind wanders, using the down-time to process ideas subconsciously and boost our creativity.
But what German consultants Rothlin & Werder analysed in their 2007 book “Diagnosis: Boreout”, first publicising the term, was something in a whole other league — something dangerous and destructive, that costs individuals and the global economy dearly each year.
I know how insidious and harmful this phenomenon can be because I allowed it to develop in…
Three more days until my birthday — the big Five-O.
The past few weeks have been strange, with people cautiously raising the topic — pussyfooting around it, trying to be delicate, as if they were asking me about a terminal illness.
The fact is, I am looking forward to it. And not just because lockdown removes the risk of any “surprise parties”.
To me, this is a perfect opportunity — a new milestone in the transformation journey that has been the driving force in my life during my 40s.
Mid-life is an emotional rollercoaster, and I have been no stranger…
’Twas brillig and the slithy toves did gyre and gimble in the wabe…
Can you hear it?
That is the sound of Grammarly self-combusting in a supernova of red underlines.
Or at least that is what I am imagining would happen if Lewis Carroll had activated a word-checking bot like Grammarly or ProWritingAid while penning the above opening lines from his famous poem “Jabberwocky”.
And if he was unhinged enough to forget to deactivate the app while drafting, who knows? Maybe the poem would never even have seen the light of day.
And I would have grown up a different…
Look what you’ve done now.
You made me write a poem — I never do that!
Dear writers on this medium
I must confess my tedium,
With articles flash flooding me
Endangering my sanity —
No longer can I bear this onus
Of hearing all about your bonus!
This is the type of navel-gazing
That no-one truly thinks amazing.
What can possess you in this way
To think that I would spend my day,
And all my precious reading hours
To learn about your bonus powers?
I’ve turned my cheek so many times
And overlooked your writing crimes —
In September 2004 there was a stadium-size crowd of people flowing out of our German Light Forum onto the streets of small-town Lemgo. As impressive as the architecture and exhibitions in our Light Forum were, this had never happened before and never would again.
People had come from all over the country to hear one man speak.
Dieter Rams, often nicknamed the “godfather of design”.
His unobtrusive approach and “less but better” credo, partly inspired by his carpenter grandfather, generated a timeless nature in his products and brought him worldwide recognition and appreciation. With his iconic furniture and appliance designs…
Phil. Wake up. Its happened again.
My stress hangover will be here soon & there is no Wolfpack to save me.
There I was, working on a new draft, almost in flow, when my misguided scatterbrain seduced me with the vision of a fresh coffee and a “wafer-thin” slice of dark chocolate. Usually a great idea — except for the fact that I had one before I started half an hour ago. And of course, the second dose sent me right over the edge. Now my elusive flow-jo has run to hide from the hyperactive buzziness coursing through me.
In J.K. Rowling’s 6th Harry Potter story we experience the otherwise laid-back and fairly impervious Ron in a highly troubled state.
Having just scraped his way into the Gryffindor Quidditch team a year earlier he now has to try out again and prove his worth as Keeper. His self-doubt, however, rings out louder than all the breakfast noises in the Great Hall.
Then Harry tricks him. Surreptitiously slipping a small crystal vial back into his robes he convinces Ron that he has spiked his drink with “Felix Felicis” — a rare and powerful good luck potion Harry had won earlier.
Starting to run is never easy. Back in 2019, I felt like I had given up more times than I had started.
First, there are all the physical hurdles the average couch professional has to push through just to reach basic fitness. The rivers of sweat stinging your eyes. The napalm in your lungs and side. The acid-coated lead in each of your legs. And just when you are trying to push through it, chanting your “pain is my friend” mantra, an 83 yr old in neon gear soars past you and leaves you broken and disillusioned.
However, having just…
“Do what Steve Jobs did, not what he said.”
That is the subject of the opening chapter of Cal Newport’s “So Good They Can’t Ignore You”. Here Cal contrasts the “find what you love” words of the viral 2005 Stanford commencement speech with the reality of Jobs’ CV.
If you had asked Sir Steve after college (where he studied Western History & Dance) what his “passion” was, he may well have talked about Spirituality or Eastern Mysticism. Dabbling in electronics for cash came later. And, in case you missed it, he ended up doing quite well with computers.
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